Life coach or personal trainer? Can either motivate lasting change in you?
If you’ve been trying or you’ve been paying for a life coach or personal trainer to help you, but you’re not getting positive results in your life, it might be because your coach isn’t qualified to motivate or teach you how to change.
Life coaching is a relativity new industry so understanding why hiring a coach can be beneficial for you, and what you should expect from personal development coaching is especially important. Life coaching began as a formal profession around 1950. Today the International Coach Federation (started in 1995) recognizes 15 coaching specialties including health and fitness, spirituality, relationships, and business. When you think about it, these are all what we call Life Areas; sub-categories that comprise your life as a whole. This is why we can give the name Life Coach to anyone who is coaching you in any of these specialty coaching areas.
However, this does not mean that all coaches are actually qualified to coach you in every area of life. And that’s just it! We think that’s a problem and a huge gap in the industry and it’s doing a disservice to the client. At MotoMe Life we are working to build a business that serves as a resource not only for personal training for physical health but also combines certified life coaching in order to serve our clients’ wellness in other aspects of their lives as well.
Multidisciplinary Model Approach
Many industries benefit from separating out into specializations. I’m quite glad that I didn’t have to go to my dentist for either of my knee surgeries. However, there is something to be said for the lack of multidisciplinary models being used in the professional and educational world. We see this coming to light strongly in the medical field as research proves how much more interconnected the body is with the mind than we’ve previously predicted. More and more data supports that many mental health issues can be prevented and/or expunged by taking care of the body in a certain way. A person’s physical movement (bio-mechanics) can directly affect their mental health (bio-chemically). Is your personal trainer only worried about reps, weight, and diet? Are they educating you on the necessary mental changes that are needed to maintain these new habits over time?
It seems that often the fitness industry neglects the challenges of behavior change not only physically but also mentally, and how it applies to personal development and growth. Typically a personal trainer only focuses on an individual’s physical body changes and neglects the habitual mental behaviors and the motivational positive behavioral change, that a client may struggle with when seeking personal development.
At MotoMe Life our resources and coaches are there for you to use not only for physical health but also to better your relationships, financial health, intellectual learning, spiritual maturity, purpose/mission mapping, and overall progressive happiness within yourself and in your life. By blending the many great qualities of a personal trainer with the wisdom of a life coach who can help you adapt your entire lifestyle around your new fitness goals, we see more well rounded growth and happier clients who tend to keep their lifestyle changes long term.
“IF YOU TRAIN & CONDITION YOUR MIND THE WAY YOU TRAIN AND CONDITION YOUR BODY IT WILL RETRACT AND GROW STRONG THE SAME WAY; WITH EFFICIENCY & EFFECTIVENESS.” -Unknown
If you aren’t getting results in your life, or even if you are, think about this, there are 5 Stages of Change; Where are you and what would it take to get you to the next level? How could a coach help?
1.) Pre-Contemplation Stage: People in this stage of change are usually saying things like “I don’t have a problem.” At this stage we usually aren’t considering changing our behavior. We’ve usually made previous attempts to change without success and think “I’ve tried everything! Nothing works.” In our minds the gains (Pros) of changing, do not outweigh the costs (Cons) of changing our behavior.
2.) Contemplation Stage: When people are in this stage they are usually saying things like “I don’t think I need help, but my doctor says I should be doing yoga” and they are thinking about doing it. This is where most of us get stuck. We all know the basics about eating right and exercising but we’re ambivalent about changing. We hesitate, still unconvinced that the effort we’re about to put into changing our behavior will be worth the results over time in our lives.
3.) Preparation Stage: I love this stage! When we believe that change can happen in our lives and that it’s going to be worth it, we decide! We’re MOTOvated! We begin to consider the how to change and make minor adjustments in our behavior like choosing to drink more water during the day or wake up earlier to make time for ourselves. In this stage, a coach will be helping you define and map a clear plan for your life goals.
Friends, don’t get confused! It DOES NOT need to take years to get to this point. Deciding to make a change (stages 1–3) can be made in an instant! It tends to feel like this when we get to the end of an inspirational movie or at the end of a motivational conference. We feel inspired and think “I can and want to do this!” Making the plan will take some time but its well worth it in the long run, especially once we get to the Maintenance Stage and have a plan to deal with setbacks.
4.) Action Stage: When we’re in this stage we are taking actions within our plan. Our actions are different than our behaviors in the Pre-contemplation stage and we’re attempting to avoid old habits, triggers, etc. Coaches with clients in this stage should be hearing things like “I’ve lost 3 lbs!” “I made an extra $100 this week!” or other documented results. The client is usually seeking new friends that are living in ways that they themselves want to be living. And telling other friends and family about how their goals are going. The journey is still exciting and the newness is usually incentive enough to keep going.
5.) Maintenance Stage: This is “The Grind.” This stage is the rinse and repeat process. It’s LIFE! This can be the best and the hardest part of living a new lifestyle. Maintaining new habits until they become habitual and ingrained into your way of life takes learning and time. It also takes intrinsic character values that we have to seek and grow, within ourselves. This is the journey that never stops. It’s the day-to-day where we create and find happiness, love, and even struggle with (hopefully better) problems to solve.
We may have to find ways to fit our new choices within our lives that didn’t go to plan. Such as limiting or changing what we eat in a household that may not be able to change with you. You are uniquely you, and finding ways to live your best life next to others who’s best life may look different than yours, is very important and also very possible! You can eat paleo in a house that needs boxed mac n’ cheese for kids dinners. We just have to have a plan. It’s imperative at this stage to be using all your hard and soft commitment models, and your reward/celebrate systems. You would have learned and planned these with your coach in the Preparation Stage.
So, what stage are you in, and on what goal? Let’s connect! Comment on and share this post. Ask MotoMe questions. We want to live MOTOvated right alongside you! #MotoMeLife